Rebecca Has Spoken | Christian Relationship Advice for Women | Boundaries & Personal Growth
Are you a Christian woman who has trouble saying no without feeling guilty, second-guesses herself, overthinks other people's reactions or takes too much responsibility for how everyone else feels?
Maybe you know you need stronger boundaries but aren't always sure where your responsibility ends and somebody else's begins. Maybe you keep people-pleasing, over-explaining, staying too long in unhealthy relationships or ignoring your own judgment because you're so focused on keeping the peace.
I've been there!
For years, I struggled in relationships, people-pleased, second-guessed myself and learned painful lessons the hard way. Eventually, I learned that I was a codependent in need of healing.
My life changed after I matured in my relationship with Christ, did the work in therapy and learned how to understand and trust myself. As I healed, I became better at recognizing unhealthy patterns, setting boundaries, making wiser decisions and understanding what was mine to carry - and what wasn't.
Now I want to help other Christian women do the same.
Rebecca Has Spoken is for the woman who wants to heal what's keeping her stuck, grow stronger without becoming hard and build healthier relationships and the life she wants.
We'll talk about codependency, people-pleasing, boundaries, self-doubt, discernment, emotional maturity, dating and relationships.
Think of me as the big sister in your ear who's been down this road before and is here to help you get out of the weeds, get yourself together and build the life you desire.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Episodes
Jul 14, 2026
Jul 14, 2026
13 min
Why do you keep choosing the wrong men—even when you know the red flags?
In this episode, I break down the relationship patterns that kept me stuck in unhealthy relationships, including poor boundaries, insecure attachment, fear of abandonment, settling, and ignoring my own discernment. I eventually realized that learning how to spot toxic behavior wasn’t enough. I had to look at the patterns in my own choices and change the way I approached dating and relationships.
If you keep dating the same type of man in different packages, struggle to walk away from unhealthy relationships, or want to build better boundaries and healthier relationship patterns, this episode is for you.
Jul 14, 2026
Jul 14, 2026
13 min
Have you ever looked back at a toxic relationship and wondered, "What was I thinking?" In this episode, I share how codependency made me choose the wrong guy for years — and why being smart doesn't protect us from painful relationship patterns. As a codependent, I was the queen of second chances: ignoring red flags, smelling the smoke, and still walking into the fire because of people pleasing and a lack of boundaries. If you've been hard on yourself for staying too long or thinking you're responsible for fixing other people, I hope this conversation brings you clarity, healing, and hope. You'll learn how I began to heal, set healthy boundaries in relationships, and stop repeating the same cycle.
Jul 14, 2026
Jul 14, 2026
11 min
How did I go from a string of failed relationships to finally married at 41? In this episode I share my personal journey through heartbreak and unhealthy relationship patterns — and what God taught me through that season about codependency, boundaries, and healing. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns or if it's too late for love, this conversation is for you.
Jul 3, 2026
Jul 3, 2026
1 min
Welcome to Rebecca Has Spoken, where we have honest conversations about faith, boundaries, relationships and the wisdom to make better decisions. If you’ve ever wondered “How did I get here?” or struggled to balance kindness with having your own back, you’re in the right place.